Dating Tips for Pick-Up Artist

I’d like to tell you something about one of the pitfalls in fast pick-up.

You see I have been quite an expert on fast pick-up but there’s a one little problem that I can’t deny about it.

You see, even though guys that can pull these off enjoy not only success with women straight out of a fantasy world and typically get women obsessed with them, with a fast pick-up comes a big problem…

***SOMETIMES FAST LAYS DON’T BECOME RELATIONSHIPS***

Sometimes a fast pick-up becomes a one-night stand, and never leads to a relationship.

Well, it’s fine for those who has that intention.

But most of the time, you DO want to see the woman again - or possibly start a RELATIONSHIP with her.

Here’s something I want you to know – In EVERY woman I have slept with in the past 2 years has been under 4 hours.

And EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. wanted to see me again…

Am I saying this to brag?  Hell no.

I’m only saying this so that you can realize the immense amount of value I can offer you as a client of mine, and to prove a very important point:

“POTENTIAL TO START A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GIRL HAS *NOTHING* TO DO WITH HOW FAST YOU SLEEP WITH HER”

There are three major keys to have a continuing intimate relationship with a woman…

And I feel it’s time to let you know about these myth.

3 MYTHS ABOUT FAST PICK UPS

MYTH #1: You must “build comfort” to a girl for 7+ hours before sleeping with her.

As I said, it has nothing to do with the amount of time you spend with her before you sleep with her.

In fact it has almost NOTHING to do with anything you do before you sleep with her in fact, the secret lies in what you do AFTER you sleep with her.

I have got it down to an exact science. A series of actions and behaviors that practically guarantee she will not only see you again, but also be borderline obsessed with you…

Nothing fancy, no routines or lines… just natural behaviors that a person can learn in less than five minutes.

Now here’s the REALITY of this situation…

The reality is some of the hottest, most intelligent women I have dated loved the excitement of getting physical really fast.

It’s straight out of the movies, and very few guys can pull it off skillfully.

MYTH #2: You need to reassure the girl that you will see her again before sleeping with her.

Many guys try this… they imply that the girl is “relationship material” or that he definitely wants to see her again.

Man… what a way to kill intrigue right off the bat…

Guys do this and tend to come on wayyyy to strong. They appear too interested, too needy, to desperate to get a girlfriend.

But at the same way you should NEVER imply that it’s a one night stand, or that you’re just interested in sex.

This won’t be effective..

MYTH #3: You have to be great in bed the first time you sleep with her.

I have a friend named Julian, who admit that he’s bad in bed and only lasts for about 3 minutes converts girls like *CRAZY*.

Point there, he is NOT good in bed (his choice), and STILL gets girls so crazy about him, they won’t leave him alone…. (so he ends up playing Gears of War on his XBox360 while they sit there naked, watching him.)

You might say…

“HEY, THIS IS TOO ADVANCED, I STILL HAVE PROBLEMS PICKING UP AND SLEEPING WITH A GIRL!”

I understand but listen… This is important information that you’re going to need soon anyway.

And let’s be honest - when you DO start sleeping with women - wouldn’t you rather have the CHOICE to see them again or not?

That’s what I thought.

There are many different conceptualizations of sexual tension floating around in the seduction community.

Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sexual interest paired with false barriers, using the word “sexy” to convey a sexual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route – complex language patterns intended to implant sexual thoughts in a woman’s mind.

Some of these techniques are better than others, and can definitely improve the quality and success of your pickups. I prefer a very pure definition of sexual tension because it is grounded in real sexual desire, and a very natural way of magnifying the tension felt by the woman.

As a definition, sexual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sexual interest.

Sexual tension is important in any interaction with a girl. It serves as the energy, or charge in  your  interaction.

The application is subtle but powerful.

When the time is right, What I do when I create sexual tension is I am focusing my sexual desire on my woman, but not making any visible sexual advances. I maintain intrigue, a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on me, and directs her mind toward sexual imaginations. My state is transferred to her, and she is now aroused. It is then only a matter of handling logistics through leadership and compliance techniques.

Why is Sexual Arousal State is so important?

There are two reasons why a sexually aroused state is so important.

1. Women love sex. A sexual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.

2. There is a phenomenon I call “state-transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood?

State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things to numerous to try to micromanage.

Your mood probably changed, and you found yourself smiling and cheering up in spite of yourself.

How do you feel around someone when they are nervous?

You feel nervous too! Think of a time you were with a woman, say a girlfriend, and she was obviously very horny and sexually aroused, but you weren’t doing anything sexual. You probably got excited because she was excited. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other.

How to have a controlled arousal state

It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s part of it. State control is vital - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sexually aroused. (State control is not only vital in seduction, but in life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centered” or having “peace of mind.”)

The best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is experience. Socialize more, go out (sober), get experience talking to women.

Meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences like drug use, television, internet, and regular exercise all help.

For the turning on of Sexual Tension

For the “getting turned on” part, raising your testosterone level will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.) zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and if possible, regular sex.

You already know how to get aroused. During your interactions with women, simply focus on what she’d look like naked, or imagine having sex with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you want to entertain.

The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy - Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a girl, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information.

These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sexual tension, we enter a sexual state, but don’t verbalize our desire.

If we did, the girl may like it, or not like it, but at now she knows where she stands - she is validated.

This isn’t bad, but it’s not optimal. The girl has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.”

Another key point about verbalizing sexual interest is that it puts her in a position where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading to sex. Again, that’s not bad, but is not optimal, and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated with you.

Now Imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. Will it be more interesting?

True, the gold coins are great, but there’s no longer a mystery. You can even forget about the gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a friend, because those coins aren’t going anywhere.

But before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.

Master this concept and you’re well on your way.