How to Let a Girl Know that You are for Real
For today’s topic we will talk about ‘CREDIBILITY”.
Here’s a quick question:
How do you let a girl know that the vibe you’re showing in the beginning is the real you?
Or how does a girl know that after you slept with her all of what you said will be backed up?
It is through your credibility.
Able to create credibility is one of the key components in sleeping with a girl quickly.
90% of the guys that think they don’t have enough value, lacks credibility. In fact, these days most of everything used in creating value only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.
“Player vibe” is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.
Creating a sexual tension is another component.
And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)
So let’s dig to it:
There are three levels of credibility.
1. Safety - The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate safety before you can make woman sleep with you.
2. Commonality - You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.
3. Direction - You need to show direction in order that the woman you desire will leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.
Now you can think of the three levels in this way:
Safety - It’s safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - You have a common things in her world. You have the same perceptions, values, and goals.
Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and modify the realm of a woman.
These are best demonstrated in order and you can get really good at this.
At first, you might usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.
It’s because men naturally understands a certain type of world view.
But as you get better, you’ll start to be able to match ANY woman’s world view. And the best way of doing this is by anticipating the thoughts of the woman and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.
At first you will just be remembering things she’s said in the past, and then repeating it after she had forgotten what she said.
Then you will get good at pacing woman’s reality and leading. Eventually it will lead to the point where you can intuitively understand the woman’s reality. Then a woman will trust you and allow you to change something for her. You enter her world, and then start leading her new things about HER world.
What about this Social Programming?
You have to realize and understand that every person you meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you yourself have social programming also. We all do.
It’s not really a bad thing. In fact, it’s very useful.
Although we understand a lot of a woman’s behaviors come from her social programming, we can’t expect a woman to realize that.
If men have an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, women have an instinct to choose men who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around and able to raise children.
These instinct is reinforced by social programming.
Woman’s programming is her reality and literally her world.
And credibility is about showing you understand her world.
HERE’S AN EXAMPLE:
Think about if you were comfortably warm sitting in a chair in your bedroom. .
Then a guy came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.
I’ll bet you’ll really get very annoyed with him and might even think he’s crazy.
That guy is showing you that he’s not seeing the same reality as what you see. He’s “in his own world”.
Because he has shown you that he doesn’t understand your world, and doesn’t respect your world - you probably wouldn’t connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance. And wouldn’t trust a guy like that.
Same through in women. This is what they will feel when you don’t demonstrate credibility.
If she thinks that it’s a bad thing for people to kiss and tell (most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe it’s bad for people to kiss and tell.
If you have the same perceptions about the world as her, it will build your credibility vastly.
That’s when you know you get this thing.
When someone comes along who understands a woman’s reality so well, she doesn’t just think he’s perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.
She thinks “He’s just like me!”
This is really the easiest thing in the world. So don’t mess it up just like others do.
It’s a major thing and you’ll watch your game improve dramatically once you get this.
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