How to Make Meeting Women Fun and Easy
Does it ever feel like WORK meeting women?
And how does it feel that despite of all your hard work
you’re still not getting the success you’re looking for?
If you agreed to those questions, then you may continue
reading.
Honestly, going for a date can be quite frustrating.
Seeing a woman that you like but has already a boyfriend.
You think everything will be going great with a woman and
then she stops answering your calls.
Though of course we know that it is the man that exerts a
lot of moves in order to make things right and moving.
You must have the courage in the way you approach.
YOU have to keep the conversation going at first, YOU have
to escalate physically, YOU have to get HER number or rack
your brain to figure out a logistical way to take her home,
YOU have to plan the date.
You know what, the standards for men’s behavior are much
higher than women.
(Don’t get me started on that…let’s just think that girls
are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because
they are “pretty.”)
That can be debilitating, especially if you don’t have an
“extroverted” trait.
… I have often heard a complain about “extroversion
fatigue” from a client of mine.
I exactly knew what he meant about because I used to
struggle with it before.
Looking back I used to teach myself about pick-up, I would
go out, talking to three or four women and then find myself
mentally DRAINED.
I would take a break and rest!
I am working hard than I was in my full time job instead of
having some fun and relax in those situation. Now you see
how strange it is.
I would go home and be absolutely DEAD
… from SPEAKING TO WOMEN!
Does it make sense to you???
And there was the overall, general dating fatigue. The
emotional ups and downs, the discouraging results, the
effort I had to make just to get women to hang out with me
or to sleep with me.
It is just like I am having an overtime in my full-time job!
When I first got in this game, I literally had to force
myself to go out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I
admit, I was a nerd, and pushed it to the extreme.)
All I can say is that I have this passion in learning those
stuff (very eager for the outcome after years of sensual
frustration)
It’s like a professional athletes that pushes themselves in
the gym, that is how I pursue myself.
I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS and working on my muscles
that I’ve never done before.
If you do understand any of this stuff, then probably you
are working too hard in your interaction with women.
Here are the 3 reasons for this.
First, being socially proactive may be new to you.
As I can remember, I don’t have a pectoral muscles - (the
one that is right at the top of your chest just under the
clavicle that makes the chest look bigger) before I started
lifting weights.
Actually I do have a small muscle but it was so weak that I
can’t even feel them. So every time worked them out I was
incredibly sore and could barely move my arms. And it took
me three good weeks to really feel them.
And then I reached a tipping point of sorts, where the
muscle was developed enough that I could handle big amounts
of weight without all the soreness and fatigue. Your mind is
the same way.
It takes time to develop these new neuro-pathways on your
own. If you’re not pushing yourself HARD day in-day out, it
can take awhile, depending on your skill level.
The second reason that can cause a feeling of social fatigue
is that when you think that there is too much to do or learn
when meeting women.
Actually this is more on having an overwhelmed feeling and
has somewhat a little different from “fatigue.”
Being overwhelmed by certain thing can cause exhaustion to
your mind that can lead to some sort of discouragement and
depression. It’s somewhat saying “ugh, I’ve had enough of
this too much. I’m giving up”
This will hinder you from doing any progress. I was in this
situation when I was putting a lot of theories on my notes.
And as I looked at them I’ve seen that I am just like
looking for a huge and complex physics equation.
Doing ALL of this stuff just to had a quality women in my
life was so discouraging to think.
The last reason for feeling exhausted in the dating and
mating game is that you are spending too much mental energy
in the wrong places, wasting your focus on stuff that isn’t
useful to pickup.
I’d say 99 percent of guys get it wrong when it comes to
attracting women. The thing is, the woman usually can’t
tell, because most guys learn to hide their inner “stuff”
after a few harsh rejections.
But of course we can’t oppose to the reality that when a guy
is attracted to a girl, he is trying his best just to win
her or at least know if the women likes him too.
It’s the man’s role to IMPRESS the woman and EARN a
fulfillment for your urge from her - as what we get from the
media, our parents and friends.
So Pathetic!
I see some advertisement of a guy bungling around to a cute
girl trying to impress her, and looking like a fool while
the girl giggles like she’s better because she is woman. - I
hate that kind of thing.
So much for that… what I’m trying to imply here is that
when it comes to the matter of controlling a date, guys are
being screwed.
But if a guy takes the time to adjust the way his MIND works
when it comes to attraction, it changes everything.
Once you get to highest level of your interaction with
women, you will truly be attractive to them. You just need
to be at your best both physically and emotionally.
A GUY AT HIS BEST.
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